Honestly, I have had a few people ask me why I havent been "going out", especially since my girls were gone for almost a month....And now I am going to explain it...
For one thing, my truck is broken down. And, not one to really ask for rides, I just stay home.
Second, after my husband and I got back together, I figured out that I was spending to much time on what *I* wanted and what *I* needed....never really thinking about him or asking HIM what HE wanted...I was being completely and unbelieveably selfish....YOU?! You might say SELFISH?!....Yes....A large part of our relationship, I always told him "Im gonna do what I want, when I want and YOU cant stop me."
Thats not the way a relationship works...Its about communication and compromise....I'm sure that if I wanted to go out by myself, to maybe get some sushi (which he HATES) or something like to see a movie he doesn't want to see, maybe do something that he doesnt care for, ONCE IN A WHILE, he would be fine with it...but honestly, I'm getting to old to do that "partying" thing truly anymore...
I am going to be 35 years old...the thought of going out, being groped, being shoved and molested by pervy drunk college guys NOW gets on my nerves...The last time I went to Mardi Gras in Cranston, I got there at around 9:30 and was leaving by 11:30 because it.was.PACKED. And I was getting tired of getting shoved, pushed yada yada...
Not to mention the fact that after I added it up, the cost just didnt make sense to me...I would rather take all the money I would be spending on getting into a club and getting drinks, on, MAKE UP, or, tattoos, or, my childrens needs...of course, they come first...I tallied it up and this is what I come up with:
Cover to get in - $4-$20 (in Philly, the clubs, on a Saturday night, NORMALLY charge $20 cover to get IN the door)
Average price of a drink - $4-$10 (depending on what you get)
Figure out, 6-7 (or 8) drinks a night, at even $5 a pop, its $30-$35 JUST FOR DRINKS...then, figure, if someone does this EVERY weekend, Friday AND Saturday night, sometimes even more during the week, figure, 4 nights a week...thats $200 a week....and thats pretty much how much I WAS going out...3 nights tops, but sometimes I DID do 4...I'm exhausted...I'd rather spend that $200 on something else...
I know how much I talk about feeling young, and being young, but honestly...the intelligence part of my brain tells me now "You're going to be 35....what happens if you just HAPPEN to go somewhere, have ONE drink and get pulled over?!?! DUI...that would destroy your family..."....and I'm not the kinda person that will just have one drink...if I'm having dinner, I have at least 2. I'm just NOT willing to take that chance anymore...
No, If I'm going to drink, I get a 12 pack of whatever beer I might feel like having, bring it home, turn on the music and jam with my husband, talking the night away...sometimes thats when we have our best talks.
So, that is my mentality and my thinking on why I don't really go "out" anymore...
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