Values and what they mean to me...

I've been doing a lot of thinking and about what my personal values are in life, what values I plan to raise my children with and how I feel about them...They go hand in hand with our morals as human beings and what we believe in as Wiccans and a holistic Naturopathic family...

First, I feel that I must define what Holistic and Naturopathic is for us...

Holistic for us means that we use alternative means of healing ourselves when we are sick and dont depend on modern medicine like the majority of people do since "BIG Pharma" has become over run in this country....Some of the practices of alternative holistic health include, but are not limited to: natural diet and herbal remedies, nutritional supplements, exercise, relaxation,psycho-spiritual counseling, meditation, breathing exercises, acupuncture, homeopathy and massage therapy...

Naturopathic medicine is working with nature to restore health in a person.

Both of those helps us lead very healthy and happy lives because we dont rely on western medicine to heal us since a lot of it does more damage to our bodies then good...IN MY opinion and belief system.

Now, moving on, that is a very core value and belief system in my house hold and I raise my children with these values...I dont vaccinate my children for various reasons but mostly because I dont believe in putting man made medicine into their little bodies. Im not going to get into a whole political conversation about the dangers of vaccines, just that I dont believe in them.

Another value I raise my children on is the belief system of being able to choose whatever religion they want to believe in...In this house, we are Wiccan...When they are at my inlaws house's they are Christian. I allow them to take my girls to church to see the differences in our religions...They havent been exposed to any other religion at the moment, but later in life, Im sure that they will be...

One day, not to long ago, I asked my nine year old what she believes in, she said, quick as lightning, "I believe in you Mommy..."

After I giggled and hugged her so so tight for that, I asked her again, though I reworded it. I asked her if she believed in God the Goddess, and the like. I also asked her what she believed in as far as religion is concerned and she shrugged and just said, clear as a bell, "I dont really know. I guess Ill figure it out as I get older."

I smiled, hugged her, and she went to go play with her sisters....thats my girl, I said to myself.

Another value I raise my girls with is to not judge or see anyones skin color or sexual orientation as wrong and to accept them as they are. Also, to see beauty in everything and in everyone....even if theyre heavily tattooed or pierced or in some other way not "normal" looking by society's standards...

And they do. When my children play with say, a hispanic child, or a black child, a chinese child or anyone else, they dont see them as wrong like some peoples kids or some of the ways Ive seen others raise their children...They dont even see them as different... they just accept them... its very very important in our house

Since we are surrounded by the political shit that is the anti gay bashing movement, I make sure to raise my children knowing that equality among all people is SO SO important and to say that someone is wrong if they are gay, or lesbian, transgendered and the like goes against OUR values as a family...I want my children accepting and loving and kind and compassionate to all people...We will sit and watch RuPaul's Drag Race and Drag U, and (they love watching the transformation the ladies/men turn into) and we talk about it...Their favorite Queens are Raven and Jujubee and Morgan McMichaels...(If you dont know who that is, Google them, they are amazing.)...we talk about gay rights and women's rights and abortion and planned parenthood. We talk about all the ways people hate each other for stupid reasons...And I teach them to not ever ever hate anyone for the way they are.

When we watch, if they ask questions, I answer them as best as I can...And whenever they have questions I cant answer, I ask one of my many Queen friends and they give me the best answer for themselves they can.

In one episode we were watching, my nine year old asked something to the effect of if all drag queens are men. I answered her that the huge vast majority of them are, yes. And then she asked if they were all gay. Again, I said yes. And she then asked, "does that mean that all gay men dress up in drag?" to which I told her "no, baby, not all gay men, Id say maybe 1/4 to half of them...(not knowing the actual numbers, I guestimated)"...with that, she said, "Cool." and continued to watch the show.

Thats another core value that I raise my children with. They are able to ask questions with out fear they'll get berated, or talked down to because they're children. There is something I fully completely believe in and that is never talking down to children, especially gifted ones, because they ALWAYS know whats going on, even if they dont appear to.

We dont watch TV because theres crap on it and I dont believe children should be exposed to it when they really dont have to be. I encourage them to play, get dirty, to inspire creativity. Im always letting them draw, write, create, read. I would much rather them do those things then sit in front of a tv and do nothing.

My values and morals may not be what everyone believes in but thats what makes this country a beautiful place.

I also allow them the freedom to shower/bathe themselves, groom themselves, dress themselves and feed themselves. (with the exception of dinner a lot of the time, just mostly breakfast and lunch, though I have taught them to cook and trust them enough with the stove that they can cook if need be)

I grew up with parents that taught me, though my mother was abusive (and I am not), to cook, clean, do laundry etc...And I am doing the same with my girls.

They know how to make I think, 10-20 things in the kitchen at last count...they know how to do laundry (at least Lilia does, the other two are still learning), the know how to sweep, mop, clean counters, wash dishes (the right way), brew coffee/tea...I joke that if something were to happen to me, they could take care of themselves for at least a week. LOL

Ive also taken to showing them how to food shop and budget money. Ive shown them how to save money.

All of these things are core values to me, something that no-one should judge because its what I feel is right for my family.

My family is of course, above all others, my number one value. Which is why I teach them what I do....I may not keep my house scoured clean...we may not wear gucci, prada, coach and all of those other designers, but we love...with all of our hearts and it shows in their faces when the come and hug me, when they kiss me...when they draw me picture after picture of hearts, butterflies, stars and rainbows.......we have fun....I let them be kids and that is so direly important to me.

As for our morals? Well, it all kinda goes hand in hand with our values as a family....Our morals, MY morals as a parent is to teach them the difference between whats wrong and whats right in this world...and in life....And I think Im a fantastic mother because I think that they get it.

They really really do.

Prostitutes arent human?!?! WTF?!?!

yesterday, as i was driving to pick up my children from their week of being on spring break with their grandparents, i was listening to this particular show on Sirius XM.....this show is something i (used to) listen to alot on long drives...the main person on this show is a little on the *EXTREMELY* conservative side which is weird because of the fact that its Cosmo Radio..........Cosmo Radio is the sister station to the actual magazine...

What boggles my mind is how someone like this, who works for *THIS* particular kind of radio station can be SO absolutely closed and narrow minded and just plain OFFENSIVE...

they were talking about the whole scandal that's going on with the Secret Service agents and military down in Columbia...she was saying that she would *RATHER* find out her man had had sex with some kinda "skanky girl" then a prostitute because prostitutes shouldnt even be considered human and in HER mind, they werent...

i was absolutely completely BLOWN AWAY by her stance and never have i EVER been SO pissed off at a radio show....now, it normally takes me ALOT to get SO pissed off i boycott a show/item/whatever...but when she said that prostitutes arent HUMAN, it just made me SO irrevocably angry, i took the station COMPLETELY off my #1 preset...i will NEVER EVER listen to *that* particular show again...

What i cant understand is how someone who can work for COSMO RADIO, which is basically a SEXUAL MAGAZINE from page one til the end with *some* fashion thrown in, can be SUCH a bitch...then she posed questions on their twitter page of if you found out your man had ever had sex with a prostitute if youd break up with him....

in my opinion, WHATEVER your man did *BEFORE* you, doesnt really matter. its in the past and hes with you now.

i honestly think that since *IVE* been in that industry before and will be in it soon (stripping wise not hooking/prostitution wise), it especially pissed me off...and my opinion aside, i think the way she reacted and behaved and spoke about the sex trade, prostitution and strippers in general, on a station where they talk about sex CONSTANTLY and is geared around was completely uncalled for...

the very next subject they talked about was acrylic nails and the French manicure and whether people out there thought they were "skanky or sexy".......she was screaming and ranting and raving about how skanky they were and terrible and blah blah blah and how if any of her friends had either of them, OR both, shed "make fun of them mercilessly"......

oh, so shes a BULLY now too?!

yea, im done...

for anyone out there wondering, the show is called "WAKE UP WITH TAYLOR" on Sirius XM 109 Cosmo Radio......

BOYCOTT THIS BITCH....

Prostitutes arent HUMAN?! wtf is SHE smoking?!

SOOOO good, im reposting it (and added a few things...)

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Ok, so instead of putting this all in my status which only allows 420 characters, I figured I would write out a blog -

THINGS THAT PISS ME OFF AND IRRITATE ME -

Women that will give up everything, even their choice of education, for a man.

People who confuse femininity with idiotic, cutesy, giggly, hair-tossing, hanging-all-over-a-man, flirt-till-everyone-around-you-wants-to-puke girlishness.

Men who tell me "I think our friendship would be more solid if we had sex, and got it out of the way." My response: "Not with someone else's body, honey."

Men who walk right past me when I'm in grubby sweatpants and a t shirt, and who then slobber all over me and try to act like Mr. Personality when I'm dressed up. Like I can't tell the fucking difference. And those SAME men who walk up to me and start touching me when I'm wearing something tight/pretty/whatever...THEN, if I don't give them the time of day, I'm a bitch who just wants to talk to good-looking people. Yo asshole, what did you come up to ME for? My Mother-Theresa-like inner beauty or that short little black dress that I was wearing?

Guys who smoke pot all day.....EVERYDAY.....as if this makes them sooo hot, swearing that "everyone does it..." I don't and i wont and the smell of it makes me sick... so dont preach to me about how "NATURAL" it is...it STILL FRIES BRAIN CELLS.

Allegedly Christian bible thumpers who throw every noncontextual verse of the Old Testament at anyone thats NOT Christian while conveniently ignoring the New Testament edicts to "Judge not lest ye be judged." and "to love one another."

Religious dorks who think just because you have a different belief system, you must be wrong, required to tell them all about it, and interested in hearing The Truth.

People who think Wicca is Satanistic.....still to this day i have people ask me question after question...if you want to know about Wicca, RESEARCH IT YOURSELF. Dont depend on information that you got from all the hollywood crap thats in movies or on TV. Wicca is a Religion just as much as christianity and buddism and all those others....Oh, and if one more person calls it WICCAN, im gonna flip...Its WICCA, I AM WICCAN. Oy.

People who think Wicca is just a stage I'm going through....after 5 YEARS (almost 8 now woohoo!!) , Id wager a guess its NOT just a phase...Its my religion, I love my Goddess and follow and worship her with all my heart.....get with it people!

When I'm into a hobby, people asking me what I'm going to do when "I'm tired of it."....uhhhh...start a new one?

Girls who take months getting over some asshole who treated them badly, and then get back together with him….and i'll admit that I'm guilty of that, but, prospective here…we're talking about the on again off again twits, that complain and bitch and moan and then repeat the cycle….

Men who think women are not good enough to serve in the Military, and the women that are just too damn prissy to....ive had guys say to me "YOU? enlisted in the ARMY? Really? in the Chemical Corps? But youre a chick!" Really? because im a woman i must be stupid and weak?!

Parents and Inlaws who stick their noses into their ADULT children's lives.

People who say, "So who are you going to go out with now?", when they hear that I'm divorced....no, seriously, ive been asked this.......Um, DOUCHEBAG...just because Im a woman, with kids, DOES NOT MEAN that i NEED a man...i DONT. Back off. stay out of my frickin business.

Guys who say that they are attracted to your independence, and then two months (or longer) later, tell you they can't deal with a decision you made that was independent....yup....Beauty School....and Dave. Whatev.

Women who KNOW they are a size 14 squeezing their big asses into a size 6, 2 PIECE, SPANDEX outfit....really? i mean COMEONNNNNNNNNN!!!!! i dont wanna see your muffin top or your ass cheeks lookin like two pigs fighting under a blanket...WEAR CLOTHES THAT FIIIIIIIIITT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When bartenders/doorpersons look at my i.d. and claim (in surprise) "Wow you were born in 76? You look so much younger." Dude, I KNOW....i get it EVERYWHERE i get carded....think of something more original wontcha??????

Men who assume that my assertiveness must be because "some man burned me". Worse yet, the patronizing types who say, "You'll be okay once you've found Mr. Right, despite my careful explanations that i HAD found Mr. Right and he died. and that i dont WANT to "find" another *replacement* Mr. Right....Cameron was my ONLY Mr. Right...

PeOpLe wHo TyPe LiKe ThiS orrr lyke thysssssssssssssssssssss - PLEASE use correct grammar and spelling! MAJOR pet peeve of mine.

People who think I'm always on the brink of flying off the handle, just because I speak my mind and I'm not afraid of expressing emotions. I say something that sounds even remotely un-easygoing and they say, "Calm down. Don't worry so much! Just calm down." You keep on telling me to calm down and I really WILL fly off the handle.

People who say "why isn't a pretty girl like you hooked up yet?" when they dont know me or my situation.

People who ask me if I have a boyfriend, and when I say no ask "Why not?"

People who, for some reason I can't quite fathom, get defensive and angry with me when I tell them I'm celibate, or tell me I wouldn't be so uptight if I could just get a good lay. I had a guy on fubar the other night, when i told him that i couldnt have an orgasm unless I was in love with someone and thats one reason i didnt do one night stands as they were pointless to me, that he "called bullshit on that one." really? because I wouldnt let YOU into my pants, obviously i was lying...really. MMMHHHMMMM...getta clue. NOT every woman has an orgasm EVERY time she has sex...there ARE women out here that have to have emotional connections to someone TO orgasm. AND, that dont have one night stands. PLEASE!

People who think I'm a lesbian because I don't throw myself at every man I see, or because I refuse to make an idiot out of myself over a man. (i.e. celebrities or someone who flirts with me at a bar.......um, HELLO...BARS are for one night stands...I only go to dance and have a few beers, not to meet people!!!)

ug...so, yea, im in a pissy mood...things irritate me but i dont ever say it because im always "ms nice"....no more. THE BITCH IS BACK BABY!