Ya know what burns my ass??? People who didnt go to school/get apprenticed and get licensed for hair/make up/tattooing/piercing and think its ok to charge to do peoples hair/tattoos/make up/piercing......that takes money away from the people who worked their asses off in school/at apprenticeships to GET licensed and do hair and make up/tattoos and piercing the LEGAL way...its just like those scratcher tattoo artists THINKING they know how to tattoo and taking money from REAL tattoo artists....if youre a person who thinks its ok to charge to do things YOU ARENT LICENSED FOR, please stop. it takes money away from those of us who KNOW WHAT WE'RE DOING....
And theres a lot of logistical, theoretical and education that goes into cutting, perming, chemically altering someones hair....When youre dealing with chemicals on someones BODY, especially near their face, there are precautions you have to learn about and take...
Schooling, especially in the fields of altering someones appearance, is important...
my posting here is simply venting about how its not right/fair for people who didnt go to school to charge, there by taking money away from people who DID and are doing it the right and LEGAL way....what happens if you dont get your degree or whathaveyou in whatever it is and you fuck up someones shit? and then youre SUED? what then?
its hard out there for those of us that HAVE our licenses...look at me....Im the prime example...I charge bupkiss compared to a lot of people and I STILL dont make/get the job.............It upsets me when people who DONT really know what the hell theyre doing, who didnt go to school and learn sanitation/health and the logistical/theoretical way to do things and then they start charging...
then when I say something a long the lines of it not being right/fair/legally reprehensible, I get dismissed like it doesn't matter....when someone who isn't licensed fucks up and get into MAJOR hot water (fines and legal trouble) then its the Victims fault somehow....Ive seen it happen...When a licensed professional fucks up WE lose our licenses or get suspended....its not something to play around with and it pisses me off when people who ARENT licensed dismiss the law like its no big deal because its honestly isnt fair OR right...thats my opinion.
my whole stand point is that they DONT care and the legal ramifications don't affect them the way it should...not to mention the fact that theyre taking money away from those of us that actually went to school and did what we needed to do so that we're covered...and Im not talking about coloring a friends hair or doing their make up for a prom/wedding...Im talking about people out there that think its alright to charge for doing things they have no idea how to do...what happens if theyre coloring someones hair and something happens?? would they know how to fix it? more then likely not....what if theyre relaxing hair and they burn someone (because that CAN happen) would they know what to do??? Id wager a guess they wouldnt.
So, this is just something that bothers me right down to my core.
November 30, 2011
November 19, 2011
My thoughts on Guns
Recently, I was in a discussion about guns and the fact that laws were passed that make it legal to carry concealed. I replied that it will make it even more dangerous to go out into public, especially here in Rhode Island where all the crazies are...If you look at them in a way that they don't like, which is common in the area that I live in, they'll whip it out and BAM, youre dead.
The argument was that "law abiding citizens" know the rules and yada yada.........My argument is.....WHO decides who the law abiding citizens are? What makes them think that said "law abiding citizens" ARE such? Why, because they have no criminal background? No gun charges? Nothing like that? Why, because their credit is squeaky clean?
Im not apologetic for feeling the way that I do about guns and get highly pissed when people try to argue and say that I'm WRONG for my opinion..........I have seen, with my OWN EYES, situations with guns killing people first hand that MAKES ME HAVE these feelings....and then they make excuses about how "guns dont kill people, but people kill people"....OR "oh, well that was an irresponsible gun owner, he shouldnt have done x,y and z".....Sometimes even X,Y and Z can get screwed up and GUNS end up in the wrong hands (i.e. a 2 yr old little boy that shoots himself)...GUN ARE DANGEROUS...................and im fucking TIRED AS HELL of people telling me IM WRONG for the way that I feel about this....
I love how in this particular discussion, someone who doesn't know ME or what Ive been through or SEEN, made the judgement call and said that I should "keep on drinking the kool-aid" of the "Anit-gun morons"...........First of all, I am not a fundamental Christian.....I don't FOLLOW what the "anti-gun morons" do. I am Wiccan. I believe in "'An it harm NONE..." Guns are included in that. I believe that guns are used to HARM PEOPLE. Therefore, it goes against my very nature and beliefs to believe in them. Law abiding or not.
And I resent the fact that the gun toting individuals that are on my page scream at me, rant and rave and flip out for MY beliefs. I don't scream and rant and rave at THEM for carrying, or liking guns...............I respect their opinion and respect their right to bear arms if they want to....Its their RIGHT too...........BUT I DONT HAVE TO FUCKING LIKE IT, nor do I make them feel, or, well, TRY to make them feel bad or wrong for their beliefs like this one particular douche-bag did by saying that I should "keep drinking the kool-aid"...........hey dude, FUCK YOU.
When I was enlisting in the Army, its something that I struggled with everyday that I was going to have to carry one. Would I have? Of course, because I would have been fighting for my country and it was required of me... Would I have liked it? Hell no.... FUCK no even.... I would have hated it and even chose an MOS that I didn't HAVE to carry one for. And, fate decided that I wasn't to be in the Army so I wouldn't have to sacrifice my beliefs or my morals...
My belief is that guns should not exist. Period. And if they have to exist, take every single gun off the street, out of homes and only make it so our armed forces (Police officers included) have them.
How many accidents have happened with "law abiding citizens'" guns?
In the U.S. for 2006, there were 30,896 deaths from firearms, distributed as follows by mode of death:
Suicide 16,883
Homicide 12,791
Accident 642
Legal Intervention 360
Undetermined 220.
This makes firearms injuries one of the top ten causes of death in the U.S. The number of firearms-related injuries in the U.S., both fatal and non-fatal, increased through 1993, declined to 1999, and has remained relatively constant since. However, firearms injuries remain a leading cause of death in the U.S., particularly among youth...
The number of firearms injuries remains high in the United States, compared with most of the rest of the world. Firearm suicide rates are strongly impacted by the rate of gun ownership...(LAW ABIDING OR NOT) There is a positive correlation between homicide rates and availability of guns in developed nations. The number of firearms in the hands of private citizens (again, law abiding or NOT) continues to grow each year at a rate far exceeding that of the population as a whole. It might even be said that Americans live in a "gun culture" based upon traditions and behaviors well-entrenched in our society. This is reflected in our constitution, whose second amendment guarantees that "A well regulated militia, being necessary to the security of a free state, the right of the people to keep and bear arms, shall not be infringed." Though the application of this amendment applied to maintenance of a militia, and not private gun ownership, the second amendment has been consistently interpreted to protect private ownership of many types of guns.
Child safety is also an important issue. Firearms injuries are the second leading cause of non-natural death in childhood and adolescence. Accidental shooting deaths are most commonly associated with one or more children playing with a gun they found in the home. The person pulling the trigger is a friend, family member, or the victim. A study of nonnatural deaths in a large American city revealed that half of such deaths in persons from 10 to 19 years of age were due to homicide, and firearms were involved in 88% of them............and yet Guns arent dangerous and yet, Im WRONG for my feelings and my beliefs.
The argument was that "law abiding citizens" know the rules and yada yada.........My argument is.....WHO decides who the law abiding citizens are? What makes them think that said "law abiding citizens" ARE such? Why, because they have no criminal background? No gun charges? Nothing like that? Why, because their credit is squeaky clean?
Im not apologetic for feeling the way that I do about guns and get highly pissed when people try to argue and say that I'm WRONG for my opinion..........I have seen, with my OWN EYES, situations with guns killing people first hand that MAKES ME HAVE these feelings....and then they make excuses about how "guns dont kill people, but people kill people"....OR "oh, well that was an irresponsible gun owner, he shouldnt have done x,y and z".....Sometimes even X,Y and Z can get screwed up and GUNS end up in the wrong hands (i.e. a 2 yr old little boy that shoots himself)...GUN ARE DANGEROUS...................and im fucking TIRED AS HELL of people telling me IM WRONG for the way that I feel about this....
I love how in this particular discussion, someone who doesn't know ME or what Ive been through or SEEN, made the judgement call and said that I should "keep on drinking the kool-aid" of the "Anit-gun morons"...........First of all, I am not a fundamental Christian.....I don't FOLLOW what the "anti-gun morons" do. I am Wiccan. I believe in "'An it harm NONE..." Guns are included in that. I believe that guns are used to HARM PEOPLE. Therefore, it goes against my very nature and beliefs to believe in them. Law abiding or not.
And I resent the fact that the gun toting individuals that are on my page scream at me, rant and rave and flip out for MY beliefs. I don't scream and rant and rave at THEM for carrying, or liking guns...............I respect their opinion and respect their right to bear arms if they want to....Its their RIGHT too...........BUT I DONT HAVE TO FUCKING LIKE IT, nor do I make them feel, or, well, TRY to make them feel bad or wrong for their beliefs like this one particular douche-bag did by saying that I should "keep drinking the kool-aid"...........hey dude, FUCK YOU.
When I was enlisting in the Army, its something that I struggled with everyday that I was going to have to carry one. Would I have? Of course, because I would have been fighting for my country and it was required of me... Would I have liked it? Hell no.... FUCK no even.... I would have hated it and even chose an MOS that I didn't HAVE to carry one for. And, fate decided that I wasn't to be in the Army so I wouldn't have to sacrifice my beliefs or my morals...
My belief is that guns should not exist. Period. And if they have to exist, take every single gun off the street, out of homes and only make it so our armed forces (Police officers included) have them.
How many accidents have happened with "law abiding citizens'" guns?
In the U.S. for 2006, there were 30,896 deaths from firearms, distributed as follows by mode of death:
Suicide 16,883
Homicide 12,791
Accident 642
Legal Intervention 360
Undetermined 220.
This makes firearms injuries one of the top ten causes of death in the U.S. The number of firearms-related injuries in the U.S., both fatal and non-fatal, increased through 1993, declined to 1999, and has remained relatively constant since. However, firearms injuries remain a leading cause of death in the U.S., particularly among youth...
The number of firearms injuries remains high in the United States, compared with most of the rest of the world. Firearm suicide rates are strongly impacted by the rate of gun ownership...(LAW ABIDING OR NOT) There is a positive correlation between homicide rates and availability of guns in developed nations. The number of firearms in the hands of private citizens (again, law abiding or NOT) continues to grow each year at a rate far exceeding that of the population as a whole. It might even be said that Americans live in a "gun culture" based upon traditions and behaviors well-entrenched in our society. This is reflected in our constitution, whose second amendment guarantees that "A well regulated militia, being necessary to the security of a free state, the right of the people to keep and bear arms, shall not be infringed." Though the application of this amendment applied to maintenance of a militia, and not private gun ownership, the second amendment has been consistently interpreted to protect private ownership of many types of guns.
Child safety is also an important issue. Firearms injuries are the second leading cause of non-natural death in childhood and adolescence. Accidental shooting deaths are most commonly associated with one or more children playing with a gun they found in the home. The person pulling the trigger is a friend, family member, or the victim. A study of nonnatural deaths in a large American city revealed that half of such deaths in persons from 10 to 19 years of age were due to homicide, and firearms were involved in 88% of them............and yet Guns arent dangerous and yet, Im WRONG for my feelings and my beliefs.
November 07, 2011
Time flies and my opinion on parenting
I was looking at the girls' baby books the other night, reading what I wrote about their babyhoods...
I checked on them before I went to bed the other night, shortly after reading the books and its amazing to me that in 8 years, Lilia will be 17 and driving, Holli will be 15, and Julia, at this point, will be almost 14...Its scary that Ill be able to leave them at home alone if I need to and wont need to worry about a babysitter...Its a scary thought to me, that as they age, they wont need me like they do now and will be able to do a vast majority of stuff alone and on their own...
I cant even picture them grown. But, Lilia was standing in the kitchen the other day, and I looked at her from a distance, sitting on the couch, and was blown away by the fact that shell be 9 next month...8 more years and shell be 17, able to drive (if i let her!! UGHHHHHHHH!!!! maybe Ill make her wait...) and hopefully be either graduated from H.S. or gettnig ready to...
I love my children SO much it hurts sometimes...I look at them every day and am amazed by their beauty, their smarts and their unbelievable good hearts...I was telling a friend of mine that they have all inherited things and traits from Cameron that make me so proud...
Lilia has the Champion Spirit and heart...She wants to do for everyone...Just like Cameron...Shes great with kids and loves babies and animals...
Holli has his beauty, his happiness, his contentment...She looks SO much like him, its scary...Just in a more feminine way...Shes my goofy gorgeous funny girl...my continuous reminder of what her father was, and that he continues to live on through her, and all of them...
Julia has the more mischievous side of him to her...his sillyness, his tenderness and that "look" in her eyes that he would get when he was "plottin'" something... LOL
I cant IMAGINE my life without them in it...They have saved me on so many occasions I cant even count in my sanity and missing Cameron...There have been so many times that Ive wanted to give up, give in, and do it, just so that I could join him in Summerland because I miss him JUST THAT MUCH...........But one laugh, one victory for them, one HUG from one of them is all it takes to bring me right back to the ground and remember that I HAVE to live....FOR THEM......I cant do that to them, I cant leave them and leave them parent-less...And they save me once again...
I look forward to the days that they learn to drive (*GULP*), go to college and graduate (or whatever they choose to do), meet someone and fall in love...get married...
I look forward to day when they (and their husband *hopefully*) announce they are pregnant...when they tell me they are in labor...and when I hold my grandchild for the first time...
I look forward to seeing them become successful in whatever they do...
I am so lucky to have them and be their Mom...I love them so damn much, it seriously hurts sometimes...
Reading through their Baby Books the other night, and remembering when they were babies, it makes me wonder how I see all OVER the internet (and tv) about how mother hood is "tough"....Now, I'm not saying that its not, but, I have a totally different take on things.....I have been completely blessed with awesome children... and, when they were younger, babies.......ALL of my girls were awesome babies....Holli and Julia slept through the night pretty much from the beginning and Lilia was 2 1/2 months when she started...Julia was a bit fussy but yea, most babies are and thats to be expected...I had a few episodes of projectile vomiting with Lilia and with Julia...but I cleaned it up, cleaned them up and trudged on...Being a mother to me was what Ive always wanted so to have a few bumps in the road was to be completely expected....I never had the sleepless nights.....Well, I *DID* but that was only after Cameron passed away...the sleepness nights werent part of the motherhood thing....
I dont understand how some parents will bithc and complain and whine about "not having any sleep" or spit up stained clothes or smelly diapers....if you didnt want to have to deal with that, WHY HAVE KIDS?!Im sorry if this upsets most of my parent friends but I am frankly tired of seeing it all over the internet that parenting is hard...ITS really NOT that bad.
Im not saying that there werent some *brief* periods of time where they WERE terrors...but, literally, it WAS brief...I didnt freak out, I didnt lose it and start complaining that my kids are horrible, my kids are this, my kids are that....Im a parent. I deal with things beCAUSE Im a parent...I knew that certain things come with the territory of being a parent...
Now that my girls are older, I *RARELY* have a problem with the girls...I can take them anywhere, we can go out to eat and they act like ladies...When I go somewhere and they start meandering off, alls I have to do is snap my fingers, give them a look and theyre back at my side...People cant believe, and will compliment, on how well behaved they are...
I guess its because I have been *SO* in their lives, teaching them...talking to them...I dont talk to them as *kids* per se, unless its something that they need kid terms in, but, Im of the opinion that kids are not stupid and they quite well understand whats going on around them...
And maybe, because they lost their father SO young, its given them a different view on life. I hug them constantly, give them kisses and praise them on a continual basis...I dont talk down to them, cause again, they ARENT stupid and understand...Im very much a Natural attachment parent...I dont withhold affection and if they want attention of some sort, I give it to them willingly and with all the love in my heart.
I guess I also dont want them to have the kind of childhood that I did....fearful, afraid, worried and timid...My mother never gave me the love that I needed so when I had Lilia, I made the decision to give them everything that I could...
Now, Im *NOT* saying that some parents DONT have it hard...there are plenty out there that do. And my heart goes out to those that do....but, Im tired of reading story after story (mainly teen mom and other such shows) that say "being a parent is *sooooooo* HARD!!!"...
Cause in my opinion, its not.
I checked on them before I went to bed the other night, shortly after reading the books and its amazing to me that in 8 years, Lilia will be 17 and driving, Holli will be 15, and Julia, at this point, will be almost 14...Its scary that Ill be able to leave them at home alone if I need to and wont need to worry about a babysitter...Its a scary thought to me, that as they age, they wont need me like they do now and will be able to do a vast majority of stuff alone and on their own...
I cant even picture them grown. But, Lilia was standing in the kitchen the other day, and I looked at her from a distance, sitting on the couch, and was blown away by the fact that shell be 9 next month...8 more years and shell be 17, able to drive (if i let her!! UGHHHHHHHH!!!! maybe Ill make her wait...) and hopefully be either graduated from H.S. or gettnig ready to...
I love my children SO much it hurts sometimes...I look at them every day and am amazed by their beauty, their smarts and their unbelievable good hearts...I was telling a friend of mine that they have all inherited things and traits from Cameron that make me so proud...
Lilia has the Champion Spirit and heart...She wants to do for everyone...Just like Cameron...Shes great with kids and loves babies and animals...
Holli has his beauty, his happiness, his contentment...She looks SO much like him, its scary...Just in a more feminine way...Shes my goofy gorgeous funny girl...my continuous reminder of what her father was, and that he continues to live on through her, and all of them...
Julia has the more mischievous side of him to her...his sillyness, his tenderness and that "look" in her eyes that he would get when he was "plottin'" something... LOL
I cant IMAGINE my life without them in it...They have saved me on so many occasions I cant even count in my sanity and missing Cameron...There have been so many times that Ive wanted to give up, give in, and do it, just so that I could join him in Summerland because I miss him JUST THAT MUCH...........But one laugh, one victory for them, one HUG from one of them is all it takes to bring me right back to the ground and remember that I HAVE to live....FOR THEM......I cant do that to them, I cant leave them and leave them parent-less...And they save me once again...
I look forward to the days that they learn to drive (*GULP*), go to college and graduate (or whatever they choose to do), meet someone and fall in love...get married...
I look forward to day when they (and their husband *hopefully*) announce they are pregnant...when they tell me they are in labor...and when I hold my grandchild for the first time...
I look forward to seeing them become successful in whatever they do...
I am so lucky to have them and be their Mom...I love them so damn much, it seriously hurts sometimes...
Reading through their Baby Books the other night, and remembering when they were babies, it makes me wonder how I see all OVER the internet (and tv) about how mother hood is "tough"....Now, I'm not saying that its not, but, I have a totally different take on things.....I have been completely blessed with awesome children... and, when they were younger, babies.......ALL of my girls were awesome babies....Holli and Julia slept through the night pretty much from the beginning and Lilia was 2 1/2 months when she started...Julia was a bit fussy but yea, most babies are and thats to be expected...I had a few episodes of projectile vomiting with Lilia and with Julia...but I cleaned it up, cleaned them up and trudged on...Being a mother to me was what Ive always wanted so to have a few bumps in the road was to be completely expected....I never had the sleepless nights.....Well, I *DID* but that was only after Cameron passed away...the sleepness nights werent part of the motherhood thing....
I dont understand how some parents will bithc and complain and whine about "not having any sleep" or spit up stained clothes or smelly diapers....if you didnt want to have to deal with that, WHY HAVE KIDS?!Im sorry if this upsets most of my parent friends but I am frankly tired of seeing it all over the internet that parenting is hard...ITS really NOT that bad.
Im not saying that there werent some *brief* periods of time where they WERE terrors...but, literally, it WAS brief...I didnt freak out, I didnt lose it and start complaining that my kids are horrible, my kids are this, my kids are that....Im a parent. I deal with things beCAUSE Im a parent...I knew that certain things come with the territory of being a parent...
Now that my girls are older, I *RARELY* have a problem with the girls...I can take them anywhere, we can go out to eat and they act like ladies...When I go somewhere and they start meandering off, alls I have to do is snap my fingers, give them a look and theyre back at my side...People cant believe, and will compliment, on how well behaved they are...
I guess its because I have been *SO* in their lives, teaching them...talking to them...I dont talk to them as *kids* per se, unless its something that they need kid terms in, but, Im of the opinion that kids are not stupid and they quite well understand whats going on around them...
And maybe, because they lost their father SO young, its given them a different view on life. I hug them constantly, give them kisses and praise them on a continual basis...I dont talk down to them, cause again, they ARENT stupid and understand...Im very much a Natural attachment parent...I dont withhold affection and if they want attention of some sort, I give it to them willingly and with all the love in my heart.
I guess I also dont want them to have the kind of childhood that I did....fearful, afraid, worried and timid...My mother never gave me the love that I needed so when I had Lilia, I made the decision to give them everything that I could...
Now, Im *NOT* saying that some parents DONT have it hard...there are plenty out there that do. And my heart goes out to those that do....but, Im tired of reading story after story (mainly teen mom and other such shows) that say "being a parent is *sooooooo* HARD!!!"...
Cause in my opinion, its not.
November 04, 2011
One sided Friendships...
Double crap on a stick.ok, seriously now.....One of my witnesses for Monday just had something come up and I NEED one of my "friends" to help me out here...The one who actually stepped up but then who had to cancel barely knows me and STILL said shed do it (before she had to cancel due to conflicting schedules)...I find it really hard to believe that out of EVERYONE of my friends on my "friends" list in Rhode Island, out of EVERYONE that think s I'm SO awesome, NO ONE is willing to fucking help me.....NO ONE can take a simple couple of hours out of their day to help me??? If someone asked ME to help, I totally would, because ya know, thats the kinda GOOD friend I am...
Yea, dont ask ME for anymore favors because Ill tell ya to go kick rocks....Im done with being on the shitty receiving end of the one-sided-part-time-only-when-YOU-want-something friend.
And people wonder why I want to get out of this fucking state and go home to where my REAL TRUE honest to god friends are.......of all my "friends" on this site that live here, they only reach out to me when THEY want something and cant help when *I* actually need something...I NEVER ask for help. I asked for help for somewhere to bury my poor guinea pig that died yesterday and NOT ONE of you reached out with at least an IM SORRY....we lost a fucking pet and everyone stayed silent....
I cant believe with all the positivity that I spread, with all the motivational crap that I post, all the comments I leave, all the time I take out of my day to reach out to "friends", all the free hair cuts, free make up, free this, free that....All the everything that Ive ever done for someone and ask for NOTHING in return and I get nothing when Ive asked for help..............Im beginning to realize that with the EXCEPTION of a few people, NONE of you are actually "FRIENDS"..............You're acquaintances...If that pisses you off, Im sorry.
Actually, no, Im not. Ive just had it with everyone who claims to be my friend and who thinks that Im this awesome woman and blah blah blah....All's I hear is "ONESIDEDFRIENDSHIIIIIIIIIIIIIPPPPP"...
So....from this moment on, I will be KEEPING people that I believe to be ONLY MY TRUE HONEST TO GODDESS FRIENDS...Who have actually done for me, been there for me, as I have for them...
If ya dont like it, you can kiss my ass...
Im fucking done.
Yea, dont ask ME for anymore favors because Ill tell ya to go kick rocks....Im done with being on the shitty receiving end of the one-sided-part-time-only-when-YOU-want-something friend.
And people wonder why I want to get out of this fucking state and go home to where my REAL TRUE honest to god friends are.......of all my "friends" on this site that live here, they only reach out to me when THEY want something and cant help when *I* actually need something...I NEVER ask for help. I asked for help for somewhere to bury my poor guinea pig that died yesterday and NOT ONE of you reached out with at least an IM SORRY....we lost a fucking pet and everyone stayed silent....
I cant believe with all the positivity that I spread, with all the motivational crap that I post, all the comments I leave, all the time I take out of my day to reach out to "friends", all the free hair cuts, free make up, free this, free that....All the everything that Ive ever done for someone and ask for NOTHING in return and I get nothing when Ive asked for help..............Im beginning to realize that with the EXCEPTION of a few people, NONE of you are actually "FRIENDS"..............You're acquaintances...If that pisses you off, Im sorry.
Actually, no, Im not. Ive just had it with everyone who claims to be my friend and who thinks that Im this awesome woman and blah blah blah....All's I hear is "ONESIDEDFRIENDSHIIIIIIIIIIIIIPPPPP"...
So....from this moment on, I will be KEEPING people that I believe to be ONLY MY TRUE HONEST TO GODDESS FRIENDS...Who have actually done for me, been there for me, as I have for them...
If ya dont like it, you can kiss my ass...
Im fucking done.
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